Hi
@Sarahjdh, I can only give you the advice from experience of putting my mum in respite.
When it was time for my mum to go into respite to give my dad a break I was really nervous about having the conversation. It had got to the point of no going back, we all needed a break.
The way we explained it to her was that SHE needed the break, also, dad had some things that he had to do and couldn't spend the time with her that she needed. My mum was accepting of this, she realised that dad was knackered.
It's not an easy conversation to have, far from it, but the PWD is often more accepting than we realise.
We also didn't leave a phone with her, in case the 45 phone calls a day to me started. When I spoke to CH Manager about how we should leave, she told us to just say "see you later", it worked!
Good luck and please let us know how you get on,
Jxxx