Mum sat quietly, as all the family where around. I have a Step Son of 33 that came around also which mum enjoyed as mum misses the present of having a man around the house as my father has pass away , I am now Single . My son away at the moment his 28, so Christmas day went really well as mum seem to behaviour nicely when there a man around. Then last Sunday mum went to respite for a week , which is really good for me , because caring for my mother has not been easy as my mother has very challenging behaviours , then over the years have got better , but has left a mark on me mentally as it has left me mentally draining so respite does help .
The unit made such an effort for the patients, a really lovely dinner, and I went up with mum in the end,
Its good to read that you unit is making an effort for the patients , also that your father enjoyed the bath he had .
Mum on the other hand sits and cries and sobs when shes with him, i cant get her to understand that she needs to make the most of every single moment with him and enjoy the time they have left together
We all grieve in a different way, different stages. better to let that emotion out rather than bottling them up Otherwise I wonder if like with me I ate them up with comfort food . I hated crying when my father pass away mum got dementia,I never really cry , just shading a tear or 2 Then few years later I thought I would never stop crying . I always thought crying was a sigh of weakness, also to much self petty I was wrong on that .
I must say that I have never seen my mother cry in my whole life, even when my father died . Mum just scream , I would see her eyes get weepy , but a tear would not drop . she just sod it back in may be that was to do with the dementia .
Your right there when you say , Make the most of every single moment, enjoy the time you have both left together . But crying is just showing your mother pain. With emotional pain after a while you just learn to live with it , crying does not kill you . It just make you stronger as time passes .