I am so on edge and really don't know where to begin. I know we all have a story to tell and looking through some of the posts I realise that some of you are going through so much more than me.
I suppose I am using this as therapy for myself really, getting it down in writing sometimes lifts the stress - slightly!
This is about my mum and some of the things I am going to say will sound a bit blunt - sorry!
Me and my husband noticed about 18 months ago that my mum was "changing", she has always been argumentative, opinionated and never showed much love. But instead of arguing back, she would break down in tears. She would repeat herself, or call me four times to check an arrangement. It all came to a head last Christmas (2017), when she said that everyone in the lounge were strangers and she was embarrassed that they had bought her presents. In actual fact they were all family - mostly her grandchildren.
We sort of dealt with that and i suppose we brushed it under the carpet to a degree. We carried on for a few months, then she completely cut herself off. She wouldn't answer the phone and when she LET my dad answer, I could hear her in the background trying to stop him from talking to me.
Eventually, she called me one day and said she had been unwell and that she had a dr appointment and would I go with her. She had a UTI and was really, really unwell with it. I put the personality changes down to that, as i know it can cause major problems. At the drs I explained that mum had been forgetful and I thought there some memory issues. When we got outside my mum went APE! The dr said she would get her a nuerology appointment. My mum was not happy - in fact she didn't speak to me for two weeks!
She got over the UTI but still wasn't herself.
In November she had a stroke. The symptoms have worsened. My dad is her primary carer. She has never lost her speech, she has only lost some movement in her right arm.
My dad won't accept any help (he is 83 and she is 71). He has lost masses of weight and i think is living on his nerves. I call them twice a day and go round there at least 3 times a week. They won't listen to anything I say and they can afford private care but won't spend the money.
I am now getting towards the end of my rope. I run my own business with my husband, so I can't take over any permanent care. I am the only child and feel so anxious all of the time.
I know that no one can help but just to know that someone out there may read this is helpful in itself.
Thank you,
jx
I suppose I am using this as therapy for myself really, getting it down in writing sometimes lifts the stress - slightly!
This is about my mum and some of the things I am going to say will sound a bit blunt - sorry!
Me and my husband noticed about 18 months ago that my mum was "changing", she has always been argumentative, opinionated and never showed much love. But instead of arguing back, she would break down in tears. She would repeat herself, or call me four times to check an arrangement. It all came to a head last Christmas (2017), when she said that everyone in the lounge were strangers and she was embarrassed that they had bought her presents. In actual fact they were all family - mostly her grandchildren.
We sort of dealt with that and i suppose we brushed it under the carpet to a degree. We carried on for a few months, then she completely cut herself off. She wouldn't answer the phone and when she LET my dad answer, I could hear her in the background trying to stop him from talking to me.
Eventually, she called me one day and said she had been unwell and that she had a dr appointment and would I go with her. She had a UTI and was really, really unwell with it. I put the personality changes down to that, as i know it can cause major problems. At the drs I explained that mum had been forgetful and I thought there some memory issues. When we got outside my mum went APE! The dr said she would get her a nuerology appointment. My mum was not happy - in fact she didn't speak to me for two weeks!
She got over the UTI but still wasn't herself.
In November she had a stroke. The symptoms have worsened. My dad is her primary carer. She has never lost her speech, she has only lost some movement in her right arm.
My dad won't accept any help (he is 83 and she is 71). He has lost masses of weight and i think is living on his nerves. I call them twice a day and go round there at least 3 times a week. They won't listen to anything I say and they can afford private care but won't spend the money.
I am now getting towards the end of my rope. I run my own business with my husband, so I can't take over any permanent care. I am the only child and feel so anxious all of the time.
I know that no one can help but just to know that someone out there may read this is helpful in itself.
Thank you,
jx
