I had a call a couple of mornings ago from my mother's carer (mother is 86 with dementia in sheltered accommodation) She'd soiled the bed, for the first time. The carer dealt with the bedding so I don't actually know how much she soiled it (I presume "soil" doesn't mean just urine?) At first I was horrified as I hate this sort of thing and hoped it wouldn't happen to my mum. BUT.. I just have to get on with it so I have some questions please?
1) Does soiling the bed at night mean she might do stuff during the day time, or is it just because she was fast asleep? I mean - I don't want to take her to Sainsbury's cafe and be embarrassed by a horrible accident?
2) I went to Boots to look for incontinence knickers. I saw pads but thought if I buy the knicker things I can take off the wrapping and tell her they're just "throwaway knickers" to save doing washing. I'm not sure how she would react if I made the purpose of them clearer. But there was such a choice I didn't know what to get. Most of them seemed to be for urine - is there nothing for anything bigger ? I did find one that suggested it was for soiling but the knickers seemed to be so large and she is only 6 stone 2. I bought her some - they look like the "pull ups" my children had as toddlers. She accepted them fine with my reason that it would save on washing. But I don't know if they'll just fall off her! Should I be looking for something else? Does she need them night and day? Am I overreacting (to save my own embarrasment, sorry)
1) Does soiling the bed at night mean she might do stuff during the day time, or is it just because she was fast asleep? I mean - I don't want to take her to Sainsbury's cafe and be embarrassed by a horrible accident?
2) I went to Boots to look for incontinence knickers. I saw pads but thought if I buy the knicker things I can take off the wrapping and tell her they're just "throwaway knickers" to save doing washing. I'm not sure how she would react if I made the purpose of them clearer. But there was such a choice I didn't know what to get. Most of them seemed to be for urine - is there nothing for anything bigger ? I did find one that suggested it was for soiling but the knickers seemed to be so large and she is only 6 stone 2. I bought her some - they look like the "pull ups" my children had as toddlers. She accepted them fine with my reason that it would save on washing. But I don't know if they'll just fall off her! Should I be looking for something else? Does she need them night and day? Am I overreacting (to save my own embarrasment, sorry)