Hi, I have just taken my husband for a weeks respite care for the first time. I know there are lots of you out there who have gone through this, but I feel terrible. The guilt is overwhelming, a friend is taking me out for tea but all I want to do is sit and cry. I know I need this break as I reached breakdown point a couple of weeks ago. Please tell
me this will get easier. Xxx
Hi
@highland girl
I know exactly how you felt yesterday. I drove away from leaving my husband, I was almost hysterical, and parked in Sainsbury’s sobbing so much. I felt cruel and I really thought I had made the wrong decision to leave him there.
But he was well cared for, they fed him, dealt well with his incontinence and his many foibles!! And he WAS fine.
Please don’t feel guilty, I did to, but we need our own space, we need to be ourselves rather than a full time carer. You will all to soon be back caring for him.
This is your time. This is time for you to realise that you still have your own life. You spend every day being joined at the hip. For one short week this is about you.
I didn’t want to put him into care, but I have to admit that if I could afford it then I would do it again, because I don’t feel guilty at all now. I know it was a good thing for me. Please
@highland girl you need this. It’s for your sanity and well being.
Ok, enough of a lecture!! Sending you much love, Barbara xx