This is my first post. Hello. I hope its ok to post here as I'm not a carer as such, but a very concerned daughter.
My Dad was diagnosed with Mixed Type Dementia 3 years ago whilst in hospital for a heart condition. Until the beginning of this year, he has been in a very gentle decline but my mum and him have managed ok. Then 8 weeks ago everything changed. He had a fall at home and this seems to have triggered the Vascular Dementia to take over. My loving placid Dad has gone from a kind, friendly joker to and aggressive, violent man I don't recognise. My Mum is his full time carer, although she struggles with Osteoarthritis in most of her joints. We now have social workers involved, carers coming in twice a day, but it just isn't enough. My Dad is currently in a dementia home on 2 weeks respite as my mum was at her wits end, with no sleep. My Dad has physically tried to hit her on a couple of occasions. During his two weeks away he has gone rapidly downhill, and is refusing to take his meds or accept anything other than water. He is very weak and confused and barely recognisable. The home have been dreadful and I fully intend to complain. They say they can't cope with him as he's too aggressive. But surely they are trained to deal with that? And if they can't cope, how will my mum manage when he comes home? I live 130 miles away so feel utterly helpless. I've become the main contact for the social worker as i feel its something I can help with at least. I don't know what the next step will be but I'm really worried and so sad.
Sorry if this is a bit rambling
My Dad was diagnosed with Mixed Type Dementia 3 years ago whilst in hospital for a heart condition. Until the beginning of this year, he has been in a very gentle decline but my mum and him have managed ok. Then 8 weeks ago everything changed. He had a fall at home and this seems to have triggered the Vascular Dementia to take over. My loving placid Dad has gone from a kind, friendly joker to and aggressive, violent man I don't recognise. My Mum is his full time carer, although she struggles with Osteoarthritis in most of her joints. We now have social workers involved, carers coming in twice a day, but it just isn't enough. My Dad is currently in a dementia home on 2 weeks respite as my mum was at her wits end, with no sleep. My Dad has physically tried to hit her on a couple of occasions. During his two weeks away he has gone rapidly downhill, and is refusing to take his meds or accept anything other than water. He is very weak and confused and barely recognisable. The home have been dreadful and I fully intend to complain. They say they can't cope with him as he's too aggressive. But surely they are trained to deal with that? And if they can't cope, how will my mum manage when he comes home? I live 130 miles away so feel utterly helpless. I've become the main contact for the social worker as i feel its something I can help with at least. I don't know what the next step will be but I'm really worried and so sad.
Sorry if this is a bit rambling