I got a phone call from mum's care home to say that I could see mum on May 30th. I was so excited but was sensibly aware that there was the chance that she wouldn't know who I was - it had been weeks since we'd last met. I was visiting her every other day and my brother the every other other day - so she had a visitor every day. It was a lovely sunny day - she was in her wheelchair with her carer and I was the other side of a fence near the lovely pond they have there. When she came out she was screaming, crying, shouting and [because of her particular type of dementia] every other word was the f word. I was so so upset to see her like that, even though I thought I had prepared myself for that possibility. What was hardest was the carer was stroking my mum's hand trying to console her - that should have been me! She looked wild - kept saying 'that' not my f-ing daughter' etc. I left after a quarter of an hour in tears saying that I'd never go back to see her if I couldn't be able to hug her, console her. What would you do? Do you think that if I go again = that she might remember me? I am distraught - I'd been so looking forward to seeing her after such a long time. She'll be 99 on July 1st - I am 74. I told my brother what had happened and he said he didn't think he could handle the upset.