I thought I'd do a quick post just about how life has been since my dad died in September 2022, and since my mum(PWD) died in June this year. One year ago, I was grieving dad and just at the beginning of December mum moved into a care home, so technically that was my first Christmas without either of them. They always used to come for Christmas dinner, and I must admit that last Christmas Day I struggled with thoughts and tears alongside trying to remember happy days. By then, my mum hadn't a clue with anything that was going on. That said, she had a lovely Christmas in the care home and for that I'm eternally grateful.
Since mum died in June, life has been full on what with arranging the funeral, applying for probate, sorting out bills and pensions, paying care home fees, and putting their house on the market. The house has sold and completion should be next month. Once that's done and dusted, I think I'll feel free to get my life back on track - I'm envisaging it being a kind of closure for myself.
This Christmas it'll be just me and my OH, hopefully having a quiet, spontaneous time doing what we want, when we want. I've been a bit surprised that after the initial bit of informing family and friends of my mum's death, not one of them has asked how I'm coping (thinking mainly of my mum's brother, my dad's brother, my step family, and the close friends that mum and dad had). I'm not after sympathy, never have been, but it would have been nice to have been asked nonetheless. To be honest, you lovely, friendly forum posters have been more supportive than any of the people mentioned in brackets, and for that I'm very grateful.
Yes, I'm a strong, organised person who has basically managed everything single-handed, but I have suffered loss and my emotions are still pretty raw. I know that grief affects people in different ways, and I know that it can go on for some time, and I don't make any excuses for that.
All said, I'm looking forward to Christmas this year. It'll be strange, I know, but I'm still looking forward to it.
Anyway, enough said. Just thanks to everyone who's listened. Wishing you peace over the festive period.
S x
Since mum died in June, life has been full on what with arranging the funeral, applying for probate, sorting out bills and pensions, paying care home fees, and putting their house on the market. The house has sold and completion should be next month. Once that's done and dusted, I think I'll feel free to get my life back on track - I'm envisaging it being a kind of closure for myself.
This Christmas it'll be just me and my OH, hopefully having a quiet, spontaneous time doing what we want, when we want. I've been a bit surprised that after the initial bit of informing family and friends of my mum's death, not one of them has asked how I'm coping (thinking mainly of my mum's brother, my dad's brother, my step family, and the close friends that mum and dad had). I'm not after sympathy, never have been, but it would have been nice to have been asked nonetheless. To be honest, you lovely, friendly forum posters have been more supportive than any of the people mentioned in brackets, and for that I'm very grateful.
Yes, I'm a strong, organised person who has basically managed everything single-handed, but I have suffered loss and my emotions are still pretty raw. I know that grief affects people in different ways, and I know that it can go on for some time, and I don't make any excuses for that.
All said, I'm looking forward to Christmas this year. It'll be strange, I know, but I'm still looking forward to it.
Anyway, enough said. Just thanks to everyone who's listened. Wishing you peace over the festive period.
S x