Hello
This is my first time asking a question on the forum but have benefitted from reading posts - for which I am ever grateful for what people share.
Dad has mixed Alzheimers and dementia, is non verbal, incontinent and is sundowning resulting in him walking around all night and dozing all day. He is also very frail and prone to falling.
He has been cared for at home for the last 15 months with waking care, due to a previous fall he had, but we have got to the point that he needs to move into a care home. We thought we'd found a good one, explained his issues in detail but got a call after a week to say they couldn't meet his needs. He was walking around at night trying to get into other residents rooms (he's used to no closed doors in his house), and when carers tried to take him back to his own room he'd become agitated banging his walker into them, digging his nails in and pulling their hair (the last two actions are new behaviour as not inflicted on his carers at home). Also he wasn't cooperating with his personal care (signs of a dirty protest!) and at one point knocked his meds out of the carers hands (he has always been OK with taking his meds).
Since he's been back home we have tried him on Larazapam but that hasn't worked as he's still up most nights.
I'm struggling to know what to say to potential care homes - it was suggested he would be better in a smaller care home that also provided nursing. Although I feel he currently doesn't require physical nursing so not sure what relevance that is unless the care home saw something I've missed.
I'm trawling through the homes on carehome.co.uk but am feeling a bit lost in knowing what wording to look for which would meet my Dad's needs i.e. does in need to be a nursing home and is he at a stage where he's in need of chronic dementia care and also how to communicate his issues as I don't think the one we tried really took on board what we said and I'd rather he didn't have to keep moving around as they find they can't meet his needs.
He lives in West Leeds so we would prefer to stay within that area for family visiting reasons - if anyone knows of a good care home around the area I would be grateful for a recommendation.
Many thanks
This is my first time asking a question on the forum but have benefitted from reading posts - for which I am ever grateful for what people share.
Dad has mixed Alzheimers and dementia, is non verbal, incontinent and is sundowning resulting in him walking around all night and dozing all day. He is also very frail and prone to falling.
He has been cared for at home for the last 15 months with waking care, due to a previous fall he had, but we have got to the point that he needs to move into a care home. We thought we'd found a good one, explained his issues in detail but got a call after a week to say they couldn't meet his needs. He was walking around at night trying to get into other residents rooms (he's used to no closed doors in his house), and when carers tried to take him back to his own room he'd become agitated banging his walker into them, digging his nails in and pulling their hair (the last two actions are new behaviour as not inflicted on his carers at home). Also he wasn't cooperating with his personal care (signs of a dirty protest!) and at one point knocked his meds out of the carers hands (he has always been OK with taking his meds).
Since he's been back home we have tried him on Larazapam but that hasn't worked as he's still up most nights.
I'm struggling to know what to say to potential care homes - it was suggested he would be better in a smaller care home that also provided nursing. Although I feel he currently doesn't require physical nursing so not sure what relevance that is unless the care home saw something I've missed.
I'm trawling through the homes on carehome.co.uk but am feeling a bit lost in knowing what wording to look for which would meet my Dad's needs i.e. does in need to be a nursing home and is he at a stage where he's in need of chronic dementia care and also how to communicate his issues as I don't think the one we tried really took on board what we said and I'd rather he didn't have to keep moving around as they find they can't meet his needs.
He lives in West Leeds so we would prefer to stay within that area for family visiting reasons - if anyone knows of a good care home around the area I would be grateful for a recommendation.
Many thanks
