Finally trying to do it

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by ceroc46, Feb 17, 2015.

  1. ceroc46

    ceroc46 Registered User

    Jan 28, 2012
    118
    Morning all,

    I haven't posted for a while, although I have dipped in and out from time to time.

    Well, Mum seems settled in the care home.The staff are nice, if a bit over worked. It'll be a year in March.

    I've kept Mum's "room" in our house (in essence just a bed and a few bits of clothes) thinking that she'll be back. But she won't and I have to accept this.

    But I am finding it soo difficult to even begin; it's as though I'm getting rid of her totally. I found a brush with her hair on it just now, and went to bits.

    I tell myself, it will be easier now, then in the future, but I'm not listening.

    Anyone else had this dilemma or can suggest any coping strategies?

    xx
     
  2. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    9,309
    Female
    South coast
    Mum is in a CH and settled now too.
    She went from her own home, rather than mine, so there is nothing in my house which is specifically hers, but I am beginning to sort out her home as I will have to sell it. Yes, it is just like wiping her out - I have used exactly the same expression myself when talking to others. Would it help if there were someone else with you and you tackled it together? The first time I went into mums home after she went into the CH I took my daughter and it certainly helped. Apart from that I can only advise a large box of tissues and a bottle of wine
     
  3. kaycee30

    kaycee30 Registered User

    Feb 4, 2015
    20
    Hi, big hugs to you, we are currently exploring the option of a care home for Dad, not sure what way to turn for the best. Really hard decision and hope that which ever option we decide itll be the correct one. X
     

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