I know 100% I am not alone in what I'm about to say but how do you cope with feelings of guilt. We have tried for some time to get my mum into care as she is unable to care enough for herself to be safe at home. Long story short after safeguarding highlights we have got her into respite, I'm hoping it continues. I absolutely know this is the best option and we can see an improvement in her mood, her verbal responses and her willingness to be involved in small activities, she's 91 and almost blind so it's not easy for her. But I feel so bloody guilty about co-ercing her away from her home and what's familiar to her to a completely new environment, I'm surprised at my own feelings as I feel so sorry for her when she cries about wanting to go home. She's not doing this on purpose but part of me feels she is manipulating me to think , oh let's just get her home when I know she will refuse carers, sleep all day and not look after herself. To make matters worse she is in England and I'm in Wales so logistics prevent me caring for her.
How do you make yourself understand that this is the best option and believe it ?
How do you make yourself understand that this is the best option and believe it ?