My dad passed away on Sunday evening after a long battle with dementia and cancer. It has been so hard seeing him deteriorate day by day, but I know now that he is finally at peace. As I am helping my mum plan my dad's funeral I am struggling with feelings of anger at family and friend's who have not even visited by dad over the past 2 years who now want to attend his funeral. I am not sure how I am going to get through the wake afterwards. I just can't understand why they would abandon my beautiful dad and my mum and not visit either of them, when we have all been struggling under the pressure of caring for dad. My mum and dad were also heavily involved with the church and no one has supported them in any kind of practical way over the past couple of years. Even the pastor has only visited a couple of times, and yet mum and dad have been actively involved in supporting the church and its members until my dad got ill. I feel so hurt for my parents and so angry at them all and yet at the same time I am so disliking these awful feelings which seem to be swamping me and occupying my thoughts, when I just need to grieve for my dad. Any advice?