I am a part time caregiver to my mom. She is very sick with heart disease and her personality has changed a lot. She is suffering and I know this. I dont know what to do. She calls a lot and tells me about all the bad stuff that is going on in her life, not just about her illness, but about how this one did this and that one did that. She also swears using the f*** word, which is really new! I am Saying she is not who she used to be. Anyway, she gets real angry at me. She was really upset today about a bill she got. She said she didn’t know who sent it and they want to evict her. Then she told me she found out that its not her rent that is due but some other thing. The bill is for the new locks on her door. They had to change the locks when they broke in when she fell. So, I said, really stupidly, do you know how to write a check? What is wrong with me that I said this, I don’t know. Thinking out loud and stressed is a bad way to be. Well, I really got it. Wow. She starts screaming at me and telling me that I am horrible and putting her down all the time. And, me I got so confused. I guess I did. I tried to fix it by saying, that well, Mom, you know, I thought you didn’t know who to send the bill to? She had said that the bill did not say it was for her locks. Then I found out she had talked to my brother and he had told her this. I know it is my fault and I should not have said “do you know how to write a check?”. I was wrong. I apologized. I feel bad. I am tried of her always saying things and then later on says she never said that. As little as two minutes later, she says “I never said that”. I hate hearing “I don’t like you anymore”. Almost sounds like a child talking to me. Other times she says I am caring. So confused and guilty. I feel like a fish being thrown in the water and reeled back in. I cant get this right.