So for the second day running I've popped in for a coffee and chat with my parents in their CH and the visit has gone badly.
After a couple of settled weeks my Dad has suddenly become hugely agitated again about their house, money, when they are going home. It's like the Spanish inquisition with some very bizarre questions thrown in and I've tried to answer vaguely and distract as much as possible with general conversation and chit chat but today was just too much. My Dad was shouting and questioning really intensely and in the end I lost my patience and just laid it on the line a bit too much.... told him that he had health care needs (which he has no recognition of) that need 24 hour supervision and that they have the rooms at the CH indefinitely. At which point my Mum got really upset and my Dad couldn't understand what I was on about so just started shouting at me more. Awful.
I did recover the situation a bit with distraction but I could tell they were both hugely confused (as they'd questioned me about location again ...and I'd told them they were near me and not near their home thinking it would help but it clearly didn't) and a bit upset. They are also convinced that someone else is living in their house and this is distressing them (although I've tried to reassure them that this is not the case)
So I've left feeling really rubbish.....for the second day running. I so hope he isn't shouty and ranty with the CH staff....or with my Mum when I'm not there.
Sorry I'm just venting really...and feeling dreadful for losing my patience with him when he is clearly so confused. I just don't know how to diffuse the situation when he is asking me all the direct questions but in such a illogical way.
After a couple of settled weeks my Dad has suddenly become hugely agitated again about their house, money, when they are going home. It's like the Spanish inquisition with some very bizarre questions thrown in and I've tried to answer vaguely and distract as much as possible with general conversation and chit chat but today was just too much. My Dad was shouting and questioning really intensely and in the end I lost my patience and just laid it on the line a bit too much.... told him that he had health care needs (which he has no recognition of) that need 24 hour supervision and that they have the rooms at the CH indefinitely. At which point my Mum got really upset and my Dad couldn't understand what I was on about so just started shouting at me more. Awful.
I did recover the situation a bit with distraction but I could tell they were both hugely confused (as they'd questioned me about location again ...and I'd told them they were near me and not near their home thinking it would help but it clearly didn't) and a bit upset. They are also convinced that someone else is living in their house and this is distressing them (although I've tried to reassure them that this is not the case)
So I've left feeling really rubbish.....for the second day running. I so hope he isn't shouty and ranty with the CH staff....or with my Mum when I'm not there.
Sorry I'm just venting really...and feeling dreadful for losing my patience with him when he is clearly so confused. I just don't know how to diffuse the situation when he is asking me all the direct questions but in such a illogical way.