Hi,
My wife Sue has been in a Care Home since July 10th where she appears to be quite settled and well cared for (though I am in bits}. She is quite muddled and quite a way down the AD line of course, or I would have been able to cope longer at home.
Our Son, his wife and their 2 children (11 and 9 yrs) live in Dubai, and are coming to stay for their annual visit. We are very close despite the distance, making good use of Skype etc and I have been trying to explain the Sue that they are coming by looking at photos. They, and our other two offspring (one of them living in USA) are all incredibly supportive.
The Care Home have said that we are welcome to have a picnic in the garden there - or they'll lay on tea. Plus we will all go to Church on the Sunday (Sue has virtually no language but sings her heart out) and do some of her usual routine with coffee out, meeting up with a few local friends a few at a time and so on.
Here is my question: It is generally perceived to be unwise / unsettling / potentially distressing to visit the family home once someone goes into residential care. My head fully understands that, but my heart longs to have her in our family home with the family visiting.... Most days I long to just bring her home anyway - so it might be distressing / unsettling for me too.
Has anyone out there ever brought their OH back to their home - and what was the result?
I have a programme planned but not involving our home just seems another twist in the wound...
Frank
My wife Sue has been in a Care Home since July 10th where she appears to be quite settled and well cared for (though I am in bits}. She is quite muddled and quite a way down the AD line of course, or I would have been able to cope longer at home.
Our Son, his wife and their 2 children (11 and 9 yrs) live in Dubai, and are coming to stay for their annual visit. We are very close despite the distance, making good use of Skype etc and I have been trying to explain the Sue that they are coming by looking at photos. They, and our other two offspring (one of them living in USA) are all incredibly supportive.
The Care Home have said that we are welcome to have a picnic in the garden there - or they'll lay on tea. Plus we will all go to Church on the Sunday (Sue has virtually no language but sings her heart out) and do some of her usual routine with coffee out, meeting up with a few local friends a few at a time and so on.
Here is my question: It is generally perceived to be unwise / unsettling / potentially distressing to visit the family home once someone goes into residential care. My head fully understands that, but my heart longs to have her in our family home with the family visiting.... Most days I long to just bring her home anyway - so it might be distressing / unsettling for me too.
Has anyone out there ever brought their OH back to their home - and what was the result?
I have a programme planned but not involving our home just seems another twist in the wound...
Frank