I feel so out of my depth with this… mum has mid stage Alzheimer’s which has brought out her more difficult (narcissistic) traits. She lives a few houses away from us in a small village.
She has become obsessed with the idea that our neighbour is having an affair with her (mum’s) handyman and that this is why he has said he can’t come to do odd jobs any more.
This is not true. He has quit because he has had enough of her rudeness. There is no affair.
Mum keeps saying she has been rude to the neighbour and needs to apologise but then talks about how ‘that woman is shacked up’ with him. This is not true. He lives in the nearby city. She thinks his van is always parked outside the house but it is not.
She is talking about it to others in the village which obviously has the power to cause a lot of hurt, particularly given our neighbour is caring for her terminally ill husband.
It is her only topic of conversation and I am running out of ideas to deal with this. She gets so angry and puts the phone down if I try to correct her.
I’m really struggling with this - we have a tricky relationship at the best of times as she was very emotionally abusive to me when I was growing up (and still can be!) so whilst I am doing my best trying to care for her, it is not easy!
She has become obsessed with the idea that our neighbour is having an affair with her (mum’s) handyman and that this is why he has said he can’t come to do odd jobs any more.
This is not true. He has quit because he has had enough of her rudeness. There is no affair.
Mum keeps saying she has been rude to the neighbour and needs to apologise but then talks about how ‘that woman is shacked up’ with him. This is not true. He lives in the nearby city. She thinks his van is always parked outside the house but it is not.
She is talking about it to others in the village which obviously has the power to cause a lot of hurt, particularly given our neighbour is caring for her terminally ill husband.
It is her only topic of conversation and I am running out of ideas to deal with this. She gets so angry and puts the phone down if I try to correct her.
I’m really struggling with this - we have a tricky relationship at the best of times as she was very emotionally abusive to me when I was growing up (and still can be!) so whilst I am doing my best trying to care for her, it is not easy!