Hello, I am fairly new to TP, I have posted a few comments and wanted to create my own thread as I am feeling desperate and don't know where to turn.
My Dad was diagnosed in 2017 with Vascular dementia and Alzheimer's, he has been living on his own and hascalways been fercely independent, the main support is from myself, sister and brother.
On 29th November had his first walkabout in the middle of the night, and one incident during the day when police were called and he was found 4 hours later.
For 3 weeks we took turns staying in his floor as he only has one bedroom.
The hearbreaking decision was made and he was admitted to CH for respite over Xmas.
It was already established by SS and care at review on 7th Jan that he was unmanageable and they couldn't meet his needs and a more permanent placement elsewhere was the next step.
I discussed taking him back home to stay with him in the interim but was 'advised by husband and family this wasn't a good idea.
To cut a long story short, he fell out of his first floor bedroom window of said CH on the 9th January and has been in hospital for 2 weeks with 2 fractured vertabrae broken sacrum and head injury, a safe guarding enquiry is underway, his symptoms of agitation, confusion and fear have increased tenfold in hospital, the plan is to transfer to another hospital to wait for social needs and discharge planning.
My question is, should i take him home during the interim and move in as I am terrified he may die in hospital. I love my Dad and have always been so close and would do anything for him, would I be doing the right thing by him or would it make things for him worse and add to his confusion, anxieties, I believe a hospital is not the right setting for someone living with Dementia. He is safe, he is being 1:1d with staff, he hates it and is constantly trying to 'escape' as he did in the care home. I dont believe any of his emotional needs are being met. I am a mental health nurse and feel I am letting him down and could be doing more.
Would this be a good idea in the short term??
It breaks my heart seeing him going downhill on a daily basis.
I've read a lot around TP and found it helpful, it thinks what's happened to Dad has been neglectful and it's heart breaking.
I would appreciate any support, advise and guidance very much as I am at the end of my tether. I am off sick at the moment. But feel that if I don't bring him home and look after him (hopefully short term) the guilt would make me sicker anyway??
My Dad was diagnosed in 2017 with Vascular dementia and Alzheimer's, he has been living on his own and hascalways been fercely independent, the main support is from myself, sister and brother.
On 29th November had his first walkabout in the middle of the night, and one incident during the day when police were called and he was found 4 hours later.
For 3 weeks we took turns staying in his floor as he only has one bedroom.
The hearbreaking decision was made and he was admitted to CH for respite over Xmas.
It was already established by SS and care at review on 7th Jan that he was unmanageable and they couldn't meet his needs and a more permanent placement elsewhere was the next step.
I discussed taking him back home to stay with him in the interim but was 'advised by husband and family this wasn't a good idea.
To cut a long story short, he fell out of his first floor bedroom window of said CH on the 9th January and has been in hospital for 2 weeks with 2 fractured vertabrae broken sacrum and head injury, a safe guarding enquiry is underway, his symptoms of agitation, confusion and fear have increased tenfold in hospital, the plan is to transfer to another hospital to wait for social needs and discharge planning.
My question is, should i take him home during the interim and move in as I am terrified he may die in hospital. I love my Dad and have always been so close and would do anything for him, would I be doing the right thing by him or would it make things for him worse and add to his confusion, anxieties, I believe a hospital is not the right setting for someone living with Dementia. He is safe, he is being 1:1d with staff, he hates it and is constantly trying to 'escape' as he did in the care home. I dont believe any of his emotional needs are being met. I am a mental health nurse and feel I am letting him down and could be doing more.
Would this be a good idea in the short term??
It breaks my heart seeing him going downhill on a daily basis.
I've read a lot around TP and found it helpful, it thinks what's happened to Dad has been neglectful and it's heart breaking.
I would appreciate any support, advise and guidance very much as I am at the end of my tether. I am off sick at the moment. But feel that if I don't bring him home and look after him (hopefully short term) the guilt would make me sicker anyway??