Help!
Can anyone point me in the right directions so that I can successfully explain to my son what is happening to Nanna - over the summer holidays the relationship seemed to go down hill between them and he now can be quite wary of her.
I can't easily reduce the amount of time i spend there ( except when he's at school) as I have agreed to help my Dad to care for her and I am a single mum so my son and I come as a pair!!!
And to be fair I don't want to keep them apart - that will come later I imagine.
My mum seems to get quite aggressive and argumentative with him at times and his response is to turn away and refuse to deal with - he sits there with arms folded scowling! Then when she tries to touch or cuddle him he pulls away.
This causes my Mum to get quite distressed and she keeps saying to him "What have I done wrong?" and "None of the others treat me like this" etc. The others she refers to are in their 20's!!!
I've tried to discuss it with her and my Dad (who understands the dilemna but like me hasn't a clue how to handle it) but it just doesn't work - I personally think she only hears what she wants. Also I've tried to explain to my son but I'm not sure if I'm handling it the best way possible.
He loves to go to their house but I am anxious as it can be the slightest thing that can set it off. My older brother suggested my son spends some time there without me but I'm not sure....
Sara x
Can anyone point me in the right directions so that I can successfully explain to my son what is happening to Nanna - over the summer holidays the relationship seemed to go down hill between them and he now can be quite wary of her.
I can't easily reduce the amount of time i spend there ( except when he's at school) as I have agreed to help my Dad to care for her and I am a single mum so my son and I come as a pair!!!
And to be fair I don't want to keep them apart - that will come later I imagine.
My mum seems to get quite aggressive and argumentative with him at times and his response is to turn away and refuse to deal with - he sits there with arms folded scowling! Then when she tries to touch or cuddle him he pulls away.
This causes my Mum to get quite distressed and she keeps saying to him "What have I done wrong?" and "None of the others treat me like this" etc. The others she refers to are in their 20's!!!
I've tried to discuss it with her and my Dad (who understands the dilemna but like me hasn't a clue how to handle it) but it just doesn't work - I personally think she only hears what she wants. Also I've tried to explain to my son but I'm not sure if I'm handling it the best way possible.
He loves to go to their house but I am anxious as it can be the slightest thing that can set it off. My older brother suggested my son spends some time there without me but I'm not sure....
Sara x