Hello everyone! Sometimes I wonder what the hell am I doing this for. And then I give myself a few minutes and say to myself but its my mummy. I am 55yrs old looking after my mum. It will be almost 2 yrs now since I took mum out of the care home and gave up my job as a Senior carer in a dementia home to look after mum. Sometimes she is funny and a pleasure to look after. Though sometimes she is very hard work and emotionally draining. I am David one day Gerald the next and so on, she also confuses me with my brother who lives 400 miles away. My wife is also a full time carer in a care home and we have a 4 yr old daughter. As well as looking after mum I do all the house work and the cooking as well as the laundry. Mum can get vary agitated at times and will scream for help even when there is someone with her, I used to try to talk to her to calm her down, then if that didnt work I would tell her to shut up and all that did was to make me feel guilty. We argue almost every night as she never wants to go to bed till 11pm, Sometimes I am so tired by the time she wants to go to bed. Once she is in bed I have a little time to myself as my wife and daughter will already be in bed by then. Money is very tight as we only have my wifes wage and mums pension coming in. Mum refuses to go to day centres or attend activities though she does like me to take her out in her wheelchair around the shops. I have been looking to get back into work, just part time for my own sanity as I feel like I am going crackers. I have applied to a local superstore for the night shift so it doesnt interfere with my mums care. I have thought about putting mum in a care home again, though these occasions only last until I remember why I took my Mother out of the care home she was in in the first place. Lack of person centred care.