Everyone has gone now

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by sammyb, Sep 3, 2008.

  1. sammyb

    sammyb Registered User

    Sep 19, 2007
    126
    Nottingham
    All the visitors have gone now and there is just me at home with my little dog 'Jack'. For the moment I am pleased for the solitude. My laddo's funeral was yesterday and it was very special albeit not the most usual of services - but you will have come to expect something not quite usual from my laddo and me. It was conducted by an interfaith minister. A very special time was when we all lit tea-light candles and placed them around his coffin whilst a modern version of Ave Maria played. We went out to Dvorak's New World Symphony - Largo - the Hovis Bread tune! I still marvel at my laddo's strength of mind and his decision not to go to hospital for his final days and, in so doing, made those few days so special for us both - at least I hope they were as special for him as they were for me.

    Love from Sammyb
     
  2. gigi

    gigi Registered User

    Nov 16, 2007
    7,788
    East Midlands
    Dear Sammy,

    Thankyou.

    Laddo's service sounded peaceful and special...and very comforting.

    Those last days at home together must have been so precious to you both...

    Please remember you're not alone...:)

    Laddo will be in your heart...

    And we're all here for you too.

    Love gigi xx
     
  3. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear Sammy

    Laddo's funeral sounds so lovely. Calm and peaceful.

    It was wonderful that the two of you shared those last few days, I'm sure they were as important to Laddo as they were to you.

    I hope you're not feeling too lonely now everyone has gone, please post whenever you want to talk.

    Love,
     
  4. JPG1

    JPG1 Account Closed

    Jul 16, 2008
    3,396
    Largo

    Unlocked - gently - free.

    What more could anyone ask for?

    Hope for all of us, and for you and your laddo.

    Take care of yourself.
     
  5. lesmisralbles

    lesmisralbles Account Closed

    Nov 23, 2007
    5,543
    I still marvel at my laddo's strength of mind and his decision not to go to hospital for his final days and, in so doing, made those few days so special for us both - at least I hope they were as special for him as they were for me.

    Your word's are wonderful X
    Barb & Ron XX
     
  6. sue38

    sue38 Registered User

    Mar 6, 2007
    10,856
    Wigan, Lancs
    Dear Sammy,

    I'm sure you will feel some relief that you have time to yourself to grieve for your laddo. We are all still here for you if you need us.
     
  7. Helen33

    Helen33 Registered User

    Jul 20, 2008
    14,697
    Hello Sammyb

    Just wanted to send you a hug and hope that your little dog Jack brings you some comfort. The service sounds wonderful:)

    Love and best wishes
     
  8. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,098
    Kent
    Hello Sammy

    You now have some time for yourself. I hope will be a time for peace, more than a time for pain.
    Please remember we are always here.
    Love xx
     
  9. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,057
    Toronto, Canada
    Dear Sammy,
    It sounds like it was a lovely funeral. Never mind if it wasn't the "usual" service, what's important is that it's what you wanted and needed.

    At my father's wake in Guatemala, my sister requested "Amazing Grace" and I asked for (and got) Bobby McFerrin's "Don't Worry, Be Happy", as it really sums up my dad's attitude to life. It brought me comfort and I'm sure Dad would have approved.

    Love,
     
  10. Margaret W

    Margaret W Registered User

    Apr 28, 2007
    3,725
    North Derbyshire
    Dear Sammy

    The funeral sounds just right. Personalised for the man. Take comfort in that. The Hovis Bread tune sounds appropriate. I can sing the words, not that Dvorjak did any words to it. A beautiful, meaninful tune, I am sure you did him proud.

    Keep posting if you need help and support.

    Love

    Margaret
     
  11. julieann15

    julieann15 Registered User

    Jun 13, 2008
    2,012
    Leicestershire
    Dear Sammy,
    The funeral sounded lovely- if funerals ever can be?Take the time now to grieve and recharge your batteries. Don't forget there are lots on here who will still be here for you. We may not have lost our loved ones yet to this awful disease but nevertheless have lost loved ones and know exactly how you feel.

    Much love and a big hug

    Julie and Ian xx
     

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