I have had my mother who is 75 and has vascular dementia living with me for the last two and a half years, and have now had enough of the verbal and physical abuse. In fact i now have angina at 52, my sister who is 55 has had a heart attack (she lives with me)We are just waiting on social services to sort out the paperwork for her to go into residential care. Tonight was especially bad, throwing things around and breaking my personal things. I must admit I lost the rag with her after she started to swing her handbag at me. In a way I am not sorry she is going as I am so stressed out with her behaviour. My whole life has been on hold and so miserable that I am relieved that I will not have to put up with the verbal and physical abuse any more. I wake up in the morning with her standing at my bed looking menacing...It scares me..that she could really hurt me when i am asleep. Surely I have a right to feel safe in my own home.