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@Lynmax, so sorry for your loss too. After lingering for a year, mum too went very quickly at the end without the morphine pump either. Thinking of you.I’m sorry for your loss and you must be relieved that she was peaceful at the end. You now need time to mourn your mum and to reflect on your memories of her life, do take time to do this while sorting everything else out.
My mum died on Friday and luckily we were able to be with her at the end as it was very quick. After a phone call at 1.15 pm to say that she was very poorly, I got there at 2.00 pm amd mum died at 3.15. I can’t believe how quick it was, how peaceful as she just slipped away and grateful that she had not needed the pain relief that her doctor had prescribed for her earlier in the week.
@Lynmax that is precisely what I had wanted to do. That was a lovely gesture to donate her brand new porter chair too, I'm sure the home were thrilled .I’m sorry that your mums clothes and wedding ring have not been returned to you, it must be very upsetting. I have read of some people who have found their loved ones belongings in bin bags dumped in reception for them to collect - awful.
Luckily we were able to go into mums room a few days after she died and pack up her belongings ourself. The care home were very kind and the room was exactly as we left it although they had made the bed and taken out the extra visitors chairs so it looked just like her room.
We did not want any of her clothes other than something for her to wear in the coffin so just left a neat pile of the bed of decent items for the care home to keep, they were very grateful as some of it was new and unused. We then filled a couple of bin bags with the tatty things and only took away her ornaments and pictures. We even left a small Christmas tree with decorations and the suitcases mum had when she moved there, none of us wanted them and to be honest they would have gone to the tip.
Just eight weeks before mum died, we had bought her a very expensive Porter Chair ( a reclining armchair on wheels) to reduce her stress as being moved from bed to chair in her room to wheel chair to dining chair etc. They just popped her in the Porter Chair in the morning then wheeled it to the lounge or even outside. It is rather large and would not fit in a car to get it home if we wanted to resell it so we donated it to the car home for another resident to use. The manager, who was aware what it had cost, was overwhelmed and had tears in her eyes.
The Solicitor had given permission to sell the bungalow last year to pay for mum's nursing home fees when it became obvious that she would never be going back there. There was a delay with completion when she died, I had to re-sign all the paperwork in a different capacity and give the Solicitor an original death certificate. I'm about 30mins drive away from the property and it is at the end of a close, so I'm not likely to see it again. Thanks for asking @DreamsAreReal.Do you live nearby? It will seem strange to see someone else living there, I should imagine. I love the Deer waiting for you to go, how sweet. I didn't know you could sell a property without getting probate first, I think England has a much better system than Scotland for such things. Quicker, too. Best wishes x