End for mother in law

[Rosettastone57]

Well MIL went into her home 6 weeks ago, was put into end of life care last week and passed away within 24 hours . So end of an era. Thanks for the advice from this forum over the last few weeks regarding getting a care home. It's been a steep learning curve.

 

[jugglingmum]

So sorry to hear of the passing of your MIL. Having followed your posts, I was surprised to see this post, seems so quick.

You did very well in difficult circumstances enabling MIL to stay in her own home for so long.

 

[karaokePete]

May I offer my condolences @Rosettastone57.

 

[canary]

Gosh, that was indeed quick. Im so sorry to hear this news
(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) @Rosettastone57

 

[nellbelles]

My condolences on your loss, wishing you strength for the future

 

[Izzy]

I'm so sorry to read your news. Sending you my condolences and wishing you strength.

 

[love.dad.but..]

So sorry to hear perhaps a blessing for your MIL that end of life happened fairly quickly once inevitable. My thoughts are with you and your OH

 

[Sarasa]

So sorry to hear that news, @Rosettastone57.

 

[Rosettastone57]

So sorry to hear that news, @Rosettastone57.

Thank you for the many responses. My husband and his sister will find the loss particularly difficult as they experienced emotional abuse when growing up so I'm not sure how they will cope.

 

[ianrut]

Well MIL went into her home 6 weeks ago, was put into end of life care last week and passed away within 24 hours . So end of an era. Thanks for the advice from this forum over the last few weeks regarding getting a care home. It's been a steep learning curve.

How did they decide on " end of life care" My Mary has been helpless for weeks but they will not help her on her way despite a living will (2004) requesting not to be kept alive artificially
ianrut

 

[Rosettastone57]

How did they decide on " end of life care" My Mary has been helpless for weeks but they will not help her on her way despite a living will (2004) requesting not to be kept alive artificially
ianrut

The GP was called in who clearly knew what was happening . She made the decision to withdraw medication. My husband and I had already had a discussion with her GP and the home about what would happen if the doctor decided she was deteriorating. We had DNR in place already and POA for health and welfare which was why the GP discussed this situation with my husband. The GP had also decided MIL had no capacity plus she was 93 and very frail.

 

[Jessbow]

How did they decide on " end of life care" My Mary has been helpless for weeks but they will not help her on her way despite a living will (2004) requesting not to be kept alive artificially
ianrut

They wont help her on her way! There comes a point that they wont treat an infection and that will end her life but they wont actually hasten the end

 

[Marnie63]

I'm sorry for your loss @Rosettastone57. Wishing you strength through difficult days.