Hi,
I am new to this site and am really struggling-my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer`s in February although she`s been getting more confused and her memory`s got worse over the last 4 years.
On the advice of the doctor that diagnosed mum I arranged home carers to visit twice a day morning and teatime just for an hour to help mum with bathing,walking,cooking her tea which she will not allow them to do at all,as she is now refusing all food apart from cakes and biscuits and she is losing weight,and other little daily needs...she had temporary carers through the Covid 19 lockdown and that was a bumpy ride-some days good some awful-today her new permanent carers started and they rang me to say that it didn`t go well as mum had said she didn`t want any help and told them to leave.
I am at my wits end as mum is terrified of going into a home,and I got her home carers to avoid that as she really cannot cope on her own,plus she has recently started throwing food away and I am worried she is going to become more ill-she is also very depressed.lonely,afraid,angry a lot and I thought carers popping in and having a chat would be great for mum,but she doesn`t want any of it.
Can anyone advise as I am worried sick about mum and my whole life is starting to fall apart as this is taking over everything else.I really love mum and I don`t want her to be so unhappy but she changes her mind about everything and forgets everything within an hour-I am exhausted and at a loss what to do.
Thankyou,Jen.
I am new to this site and am really struggling-my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer`s in February although she`s been getting more confused and her memory`s got worse over the last 4 years.
On the advice of the doctor that diagnosed mum I arranged home carers to visit twice a day morning and teatime just for an hour to help mum with bathing,walking,cooking her tea which she will not allow them to do at all,as she is now refusing all food apart from cakes and biscuits and she is losing weight,and other little daily needs...she had temporary carers through the Covid 19 lockdown and that was a bumpy ride-some days good some awful-today her new permanent carers started and they rang me to say that it didn`t go well as mum had said she didn`t want any help and told them to leave.
I am at my wits end as mum is terrified of going into a home,and I got her home carers to avoid that as she really cannot cope on her own,plus she has recently started throwing food away and I am worried she is going to become more ill-she is also very depressed.lonely,afraid,angry a lot and I thought carers popping in and having a chat would be great for mum,but she doesn`t want any of it.
Can anyone advise as I am worried sick about mum and my whole life is starting to fall apart as this is taking over everything else.I really love mum and I don`t want her to be so unhappy but she changes her mind about everything and forgets everything within an hour-I am exhausted and at a loss what to do.
Thankyou,Jen.