Lindy, if the care package does not work out, the kindest conclusion will be a care home but this is not the "end of the world" .
Sue
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Sorry Lindy, I understand you are carrying out all her wishes and I am sure you will know when the time is right and you can be happy that you have done everything possible for your lovely mum.
Sue
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Over the last couple of months, my mum's ability to prepare her own food has left her - not that she knows this and will regularly tell people she cooks every night! Like many people, I trawl through her fridge and remove the out of date items but I'm not sure if I missed something or she retrieved something from a bin as I've found an empty meat pie carton in her bin that was two weeks out of date!
Now of course she can't remember if she ate it. She can't remember what she had for lunch but she didn't want her dinner tonight. If she did eat it, it could have been raw or undercooked as she gets totally confused with time and doesn't understand how her cooker works any more. I once found a missing meat pie in the microwave, a week after it went missing, but I can't find this one so the evidence points to it having been consumed.
She seems OK at the moment but should I take her to the doctor before she gets sick do you think?
She's not fat but nicely rounded and the pleasure she gets from food again is great to see.
It's all so frustrating, isn't it? Ann, my mum sounds like your Mil in terms of refusing all help. Even when she had a chest infection recently, she wouldn't let the Carers make her a cup of tea, or a sandwich or her bed.....so as in your case, they really can't check the fridge.
It so sad...a couple of weeks ago, for example I found an in-date tin of pineapple in the the pantry, which mum had tried to open but been defeated by the ring pull. She has very little strength in her hands. Anyway she'd broken the seal, so rotten pineapple was gradually crawling out of the tin....yuk! And before Xmas we had a fish incident very like yours...as you say, I've never smelled anything worse.
I have become the Food Police and I hate it!!!!
That's brilliant Delphie....I do hope mum will enjoy food again one day as well xx