Hello, I would very much value some advice. Mum moved into a care home a few days before Christmas. I visited each day for the first few days and she begged me to take her home with me. I found it absolutely heartbreaking and posted here and it was very supportive to be reminded that of course she felt lost and afraid and desperate to stay with someone who she recognises. I live 4 hours away and work full time, so haven’t visited her since. My brother and Dad go weekly and report that she is more settled but weepy when she first sees them and asks to go with them. The manager of the home says she’s settling in well. I’m planning to go down to see her next weekend and am dreading it. I cried for most of the time that I was with her before and I’m sure that made her worse. How do I manage my own emotions so that I don’t cause her any more distress?