Doubly incontinent
I have the same problem with Margaret.
I tried our local incontinence nurse and found her useless, so I read up on all the fact sheets and leaflets I could get hold of.
In the end it boils down to getting some good pads and pants and regular toileting. (See earlier posting.)
My only consolation is that Margaret no longer finds it embarrassing and is like a small child and lets me clean her and change her without too much fuss.
Most of the accidents we have now are because I forget to take her to the toilet in time.
The other thing to watch if you are going out, is to choose somewhere with a toilet for the disabled, you cannot deal with another person in a normal toilet.
It also becomes more important to keep an eye on bowel movements as constipation makes matters worse.
Not a very cheerful message I'm afraid but factual.
Cheers Barraf