Hello , I am a new member to the forum and I really need some help, I dont even know if I have posted on the right page or not ! My Mum is very ill indeed with Vascular Dementia, she was admitted to a Phsyciatric Hospital in Reading four days ago and I am visiting her tomorrow from my home in Devon . I saw her not long ago and she still had periods of lucidity but now she doesnt and she does not want to eat or drink, her physical state is dreadful and she has trouble recognising anyone . I pray that she will not linger like this for a long time, she is frail and can no longer walk unaided , just wants to be in bed . I am really worried about my visit and dont know what to say or do , do I act completely normal and if she does not recognise me , do I try and explain who I am ? She was not allowed visitors until yesterday but I have spoken to the unit manager who tells me that she isnt asking for anyone and does not seem to realise where she is . Shall I just be myself ? Any help will be so welcome , I am so sad .