Evening everyone.
I'm a bit of a worrywart, but I'm concerned and I'm hoping someone has experience of a DOLS tribunal.
The situation is that my mum was sectioned last year for more than 6 months due to her physical and verbal aggression. Despite trialling many drugs no combination was found to totally calm mum and she was discharged to an EMI nursing home specialising in challenging behaviour along with a 1 to 1 initially from 8am to midnight, reduced to 8am to 10pm as mum actually sleeps.
Mum took pneumonia shortly after going into the home and was really quiet and drained of energy for a while. She's still immobile, but her aggression is slowly returning with threats made to her 1 to 1s and scratching and trying to bite.
When the DOLS assessor visited mum she noted that mum demands to go home and therefore she was not able to put a 12 month DOLS in place. Instead we have to go to tribunal to establish what is best for mum and and as her representative I am meant to voice her wishes.
It's true mum wants to go home, but it's not that simple. Mum's actual home is with me in a house we jointly own. The home mum wants to go back to is her mum and dad's home, she talks about them constantly as though they haven't been dead for many years. I've played along with this for ages rather than saying they are dead, but this may have reinforced the idea that going back to her mum and dad is possible in her mind.
Mum was sectioned because she was violent towards me at home. She tried to strangle me, she came at me with a knife and on another occasion a hammer. In hospital she tried to strangle a nurse and a fellow patient. She's unpredictable with no discernable triggers. Mum returning home would not be safe.
If the tribunal went in mum's favour what happens next? Has anyone had this happen? I love my mum, but I don't want to be in a position were it's just me and her at all. Mum has 117 funding. Would 24 hour a day care be put in place, or would I be left with 4 care visits a day as seems the norm for many people?
I cannot believe that I'll have to stand in a tribunal arguing that mum should be able to return home as it's her voice I'm meant to represent not mine. I'm just praying mum loses the tribunal! I cannot deal with mum at home. She needs the specialist care she receives. It's far from perfect, but I cannot imagine managing with her behaviour at home once again.
I'm a bit of a worrywart, but I'm concerned and I'm hoping someone has experience of a DOLS tribunal.
The situation is that my mum was sectioned last year for more than 6 months due to her physical and verbal aggression. Despite trialling many drugs no combination was found to totally calm mum and she was discharged to an EMI nursing home specialising in challenging behaviour along with a 1 to 1 initially from 8am to midnight, reduced to 8am to 10pm as mum actually sleeps.
Mum took pneumonia shortly after going into the home and was really quiet and drained of energy for a while. She's still immobile, but her aggression is slowly returning with threats made to her 1 to 1s and scratching and trying to bite.
When the DOLS assessor visited mum she noted that mum demands to go home and therefore she was not able to put a 12 month DOLS in place. Instead we have to go to tribunal to establish what is best for mum and and as her representative I am meant to voice her wishes.
It's true mum wants to go home, but it's not that simple. Mum's actual home is with me in a house we jointly own. The home mum wants to go back to is her mum and dad's home, she talks about them constantly as though they haven't been dead for many years. I've played along with this for ages rather than saying they are dead, but this may have reinforced the idea that going back to her mum and dad is possible in her mind.
Mum was sectioned because she was violent towards me at home. She tried to strangle me, she came at me with a knife and on another occasion a hammer. In hospital she tried to strangle a nurse and a fellow patient. She's unpredictable with no discernable triggers. Mum returning home would not be safe.
If the tribunal went in mum's favour what happens next? Has anyone had this happen? I love my mum, but I don't want to be in a position were it's just me and her at all. Mum has 117 funding. Would 24 hour a day care be put in place, or would I be left with 4 care visits a day as seems the norm for many people?
I cannot believe that I'll have to stand in a tribunal arguing that mum should be able to return home as it's her voice I'm meant to represent not mine. I'm just praying mum loses the tribunal! I cannot deal with mum at home. She needs the specialist care she receives. It's far from perfect, but I cannot imagine managing with her behaviour at home once again.