Hi all,
i dont post a lot sometimes you need to air & share!
We know mum has memory loss, its becoming more evident lately, but I do wonder if I am ' molly coddlying' her and letting her memory loss affect me so much that I have ended up on anti depressants.
Today for example, saw mum yday & reminded her she had a well women check at the hospital today & I would be round to take her. I turn up, she has forgotten but quickly covers up with ' I was going to cancel anyway'
I then pick up phone to rearrange appt, mum looks at me & says ' I was just about to do that' ...slight row ensues..
We then go toTesco, & I immediately start putting things in the trolley I think she should have or would like as I normally do her food shop at weekend as she doesn't drive out of her village now. .she tells me I'm being too controlling... I know I am!
I'm like this constantly, I worry over everything with her,has she put bins out/ fed her dog/ taken her tablets/ done her washing etc etc.....
An answer would be to have her move in with me& hubby, but that's a route neither of us want ( at the moment, it may come)
My hubby says I have to let go and let her get on with stuff, we can deal with whatever happens, if it happens! I feel as though I'm waiting daily / weekly for a crisis to occur.
She's on her own, does not want to join clubs..no thank you! Hardly sees anyone apart from me & hubby & my brother might pop up once a month.
How do I lessen the worrying & stress??.........or maybe it doesn't for us in this position?....
i dont post a lot sometimes you need to air & share!
We know mum has memory loss, its becoming more evident lately, but I do wonder if I am ' molly coddlying' her and letting her memory loss affect me so much that I have ended up on anti depressants.
Today for example, saw mum yday & reminded her she had a well women check at the hospital today & I would be round to take her. I turn up, she has forgotten but quickly covers up with ' I was going to cancel anyway'
I then pick up phone to rearrange appt, mum looks at me & says ' I was just about to do that' ...slight row ensues..
We then go toTesco, & I immediately start putting things in the trolley I think she should have or would like as I normally do her food shop at weekend as she doesn't drive out of her village now. .she tells me I'm being too controlling... I know I am!
I'm like this constantly, I worry over everything with her,has she put bins out/ fed her dog/ taken her tablets/ done her washing etc etc.....
An answer would be to have her move in with me& hubby, but that's a route neither of us want ( at the moment, it may come)
My hubby says I have to let go and let her get on with stuff, we can deal with whatever happens, if it happens! I feel as though I'm waiting daily / weekly for a crisis to occur.
She's on her own, does not want to join clubs..no thank you! Hardly sees anyone apart from me & hubby & my brother might pop up once a month.
How do I lessen the worrying & stress??.........or maybe it doesn't for us in this position?....