Hi, Have spent the day feeling so guilty about my OH being in a care home because his AD and Parkinsons have deteriorated to such an extent that I couldn't cope anymore at home. I am also coming to terms with the financial cost, we are self funding. I see from the various posts on TP that a lot of you have been able to keep the person at home. I just wish it could be this way for me but it can't. I miss him being in the house, even though the last 3 months have been so wearing on us all and none of us can sit in his empty chair!! In my heart of hearts I know I could not go on at home and he is in the best place but that old guilt monster just seems to take over my thinking and then I just want to sit and cry not that crying changes anything. I feel so guilty when we leave the care home and the door shuts behind me and I drive home and see other people going about their daily lives, even though I know they could have problems that I just cannot see. I seem to have rambled on and on but being new to TP I feel able to vent my feelings knowing there are others in my 'boat. I just wondered if there was anyone else out there with a partner who has been diagnosed with Parkinsons and Alzheimers at such a young age (my husband was 57 at diagnosis and is 62 in 10 days time)? Thanks for taking the time to read this.