Hi,
Have spent the day feeling so guilty about my OH being in a care home because his AD and Parkinsons have deteriorated to such an extent that I couldn't cope anymore at home. I am also coming to terms with the financial cost, we are self funding. I see from the various posts on TP that a lot of you have been able to keep the person at home. I just wish it could be this way for me but it can't. I miss him being in the house, even though the last 3 months have been so wearing on us all and none of us can sit in his empty chair!!
In my heart of hearts I know I could not go on at home and he is in the best place but that old guilt monster just seems to take over my thinking and then I just want to sit and cry not that crying changes anything. I feel so guilty when we leave the care home and the door shuts behind me and I drive home and see other people going about their daily lives, even though I know they could have problems that I just cannot see.
I seem to have rambled on and on but being new to TP I feel able to vent my feelings knowing there are others in my 'boat. I just wondered if there was anyone else out there with a partner who has been diagnosed with Parkinsons and Alzheimers at such a young age (my husband was 57 at diagnosis and is 62 in 10 days time)? Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Have spent the day feeling so guilty about my OH being in a care home because his AD and Parkinsons have deteriorated to such an extent that I couldn't cope anymore at home. I am also coming to terms with the financial cost, we are self funding. I see from the various posts on TP that a lot of you have been able to keep the person at home. I just wish it could be this way for me but it can't. I miss him being in the house, even though the last 3 months have been so wearing on us all and none of us can sit in his empty chair!!
In my heart of hearts I know I could not go on at home and he is in the best place but that old guilt monster just seems to take over my thinking and then I just want to sit and cry not that crying changes anything. I feel so guilty when we leave the care home and the door shuts behind me and I drive home and see other people going about their daily lives, even though I know they could have problems that I just cannot see.
I seem to have rambled on and on but being new to TP I feel able to vent my feelings knowing there are others in my 'boat. I just wondered if there was anyone else out there with a partner who has been diagnosed with Parkinsons and Alzheimers at such a young age (my husband was 57 at diagnosis and is 62 in 10 days time)? Thanks for taking the time to read this.