I am sorry this is a venting session- I am the youngest of three and my Brothers are as far from helping my Mother as possible. My husband doesn't like my Mother and all three of my children are very stand-offish. So it is me. My Mother is very set in her ways and complains frequently that nobody cares. She just thinks I am being mean to her, by not giving into all her desires. I had to get extra help just for showers Mother was making every excuse not to bath. My Mother was always a clean person, now she could care less, her want for junk food is increasing and I really don't keep that kind of food in my home, I try to keep healthy food for my Family. She always has a pain and wants pain meds. which I am very controlled on. As for Physical Therapy and Occupational Therapy, she makes it clear that she will do what they ask while they are here but will not do it when they leave. This week she has taken to arguing with the nurse who come twice a week. The nurse on my Mothers account doesn't know anything especially about my Mother's illnesses. My Mother want to continue on as she has always. Complications for my Mother is Vascular Dementia and Diabetes. I find myself being mad at my Mother for not managing her Diabetes for years which has caused the Dementia. Now it doesn't matter the cause just that my Mother is sick and doesn't really want help. I have been taking care of her finances since April, because she was getting to confused to manage it for herself, she was overdrawn and behind on everything. She keeps telling me she will know when the time comes that she need to go into a CH, but she doesn't realize the time has come. Mother doesn't get up and exercise her legs which then she gets pains from not moving enough. I will mention to her about taking a walk with me, and she just prefers not to. She even has gone as far as to tell all of the medical people that help out that she will not be available until after her Soap Opera and other television shows are over. I am frustrated nothing has gone as it was supposed to go. I just want her to go back to way she was.
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