Mum is on her knees caring for Dad and needs respite. This has been formally recommended by Memory Clinic. We have an appointment booked at the local care home for a tour and initial assessment next week (Dad doesn’t know yet, we can’t tell him anything in advance as he gets so agitated and this would totally set him off).
How do we even get him to look round? How do we get him to accept a two-week stay? He thinks that there is nothing wrong with him, he thinks he does everything indoors (he can’t even dress himself independently and is now becoming incontinent, but every time it happens he swears blind that it wasn’t him). He has never been an easy person, but I don’t know what happens if he refuses to go into the home? He was diagnosed with mixed dementia over 3 years ago.
He would be self-funding so social services are not interested (I can’t even get them to return my calls). We have POA for both health and finance but I don’t know if Dad has a formal assessment to say that he lacks mental capacity. I don’t want to go ahead with the tour until I know that the actual respite can go ahead. Any advice gratefully received!
PS: I have already arranged for a befriending service to start in about a month, assuming that he will accept a stranger in the house.
Thank you all, this forum keeps me sane!!
How do we even get him to look round? How do we get him to accept a two-week stay? He thinks that there is nothing wrong with him, he thinks he does everything indoors (he can’t even dress himself independently and is now becoming incontinent, but every time it happens he swears blind that it wasn’t him). He has never been an easy person, but I don’t know what happens if he refuses to go into the home? He was diagnosed with mixed dementia over 3 years ago.
He would be self-funding so social services are not interested (I can’t even get them to return my calls). We have POA for both health and finance but I don’t know if Dad has a formal assessment to say that he lacks mental capacity. I don’t want to go ahead with the tour until I know that the actual respite can go ahead. Any advice gratefully received!
PS: I have already arranged for a befriending service to start in about a month, assuming that he will accept a stranger in the house.
Thank you all, this forum keeps me sane!!