It seems to be very different when it is your spouse/partner who has a problem. One 'problem' is that you may notice things very very early on.
I thought my husband just had old 'age forgetting,' but then occasionally the forgetfulness would seem somewhat extreme.
His doc just puts it down to Mild Cognitive Impairment. We joked a bit and said he's always had it as he has, all of his life, mislaid things.
We were daft enough to tell the DVLA when he had to apply for his driving licence renewal at 70, and the result was that he lost his licence for 6 months. That affected him really badly, and I mean that - he was devastated. He lost his confidence altogether, not to drive but in general life. He subsequently took a driving test and passed with flying colours which bucked him up a little. The DVLA grudgingly gave him a licence but for 1 year only. It took about three months to reapply, as they were very nitpicking about eye tests and so on.
Anyway, apart from all of that, it's been 2 years now and he no different from then. Two docs have told me that changes would be very gradual, and that it can vary from person to person. They say it can be anything from 5 to about 15 years.
What I would say is, I wish I had not been so vigilant now. He would not have had any difficulty with his driving licence, and he would be more like his old self. The result of all of this is that he is now drinking a lot more than he ever did,because the whole idea depresses him. Beer, wine and worse of all he's started on rum.
So surely he would have been better off if we had noticed nothing and carried on as usual?
I thought my husband just had old 'age forgetting,' but then occasionally the forgetfulness would seem somewhat extreme.
His doc just puts it down to Mild Cognitive Impairment. We joked a bit and said he's always had it as he has, all of his life, mislaid things.
We were daft enough to tell the DVLA when he had to apply for his driving licence renewal at 70, and the result was that he lost his licence for 6 months. That affected him really badly, and I mean that - he was devastated. He lost his confidence altogether, not to drive but in general life. He subsequently took a driving test and passed with flying colours which bucked him up a little. The DVLA grudgingly gave him a licence but for 1 year only. It took about three months to reapply, as they were very nitpicking about eye tests and so on.
Anyway, apart from all of that, it's been 2 years now and he no different from then. Two docs have told me that changes would be very gradual, and that it can vary from person to person. They say it can be anything from 5 to about 15 years.
What I would say is, I wish I had not been so vigilant now. He would not have had any difficulty with his driving licence, and he would be more like his old self. The result of all of this is that he is now drinking a lot more than he ever did,because the whole idea depresses him. Beer, wine and worse of all he's started on rum.
So surely he would have been better off if we had noticed nothing and carried on as usual?