I've posted previously about my OH who has frontal lobe dementia. Symptoms have been evident for almost 7 years but the last 9 months have been a living he'll for me with his wandering and his drinking. The drinking has now stopped thank goodness and the wandering is less than before but is still a problem. If I tried to keep him in he would become belligerent.
My latest problem arises because I happened to mention to my GP last week that from March I will be looking after my grandchildren on 2 days of the week. She looked me straight in the eye and said that really my loyalty should be to my husband and that if I do these 2 days it will affect my health.
How can I be less loyal to my husband? He doesn't want to do anything with me after 43 years of marriage. He would have me drive him around in the car all day every day and do nothing when we get to our destination. He just wants to go for coffee several times a day or travel on a bus!
I've sacrificed our home and lifestyle after he had a mild heart attack 24 years ago, and since I retired over 6 years ago, he's ruined every holiday we've had and left me to do everything in the house and garden. I don't know this stranger any more.
I love my 2 year old and 5 month old grandsons to bits and don't want to miss out on this time with them. They've been a lifeline to me this past year and it would really upset me not to be able to look after them for these 2 days. Grandad could be involved too but he opts out and has very little to do with them.
I know it's the disease but I still have to live with this stranger 24/7. Thoughts please.......
My latest problem arises because I happened to mention to my GP last week that from March I will be looking after my grandchildren on 2 days of the week. She looked me straight in the eye and said that really my loyalty should be to my husband and that if I do these 2 days it will affect my health.
How can I be less loyal to my husband? He doesn't want to do anything with me after 43 years of marriage. He would have me drive him around in the car all day every day and do nothing when we get to our destination. He just wants to go for coffee several times a day or travel on a bus!
I've sacrificed our home and lifestyle after he had a mild heart attack 24 years ago, and since I retired over 6 years ago, he's ruined every holiday we've had and left me to do everything in the house and garden. I don't know this stranger any more.
I love my 2 year old and 5 month old grandsons to bits and don't want to miss out on this time with them. They've been a lifeline to me this past year and it would really upset me not to be able to look after them for these 2 days. Grandad could be involved too but he opts out and has very little to do with them.
I know it's the disease but I still have to live with this stranger 24/7. Thoughts please.......