My mum has diabetes and dementia and lots of other problems although she has been prescribed the dementia drug aricept which has helped slightly She is still at home on her own with carers in daily as she wont allow us to help her.The problem with her at the moment is she is losing control of her bowels and not telling anyone,refusing to have a bath or shower and getting very aggresive when you try to help her. She wont change her clothes very often. I find all of this very difficult as like everyone else on the forum this is not the mum I knew.We try to do our best and when she is at day care I try a go to the house and sort out dirty clothes and get them washed before she notices and tidy the house but I feel as though I am invading her privacy. She still thinks she has a slight memory problem and wont beleive it could be anything else. She is forever losing her purse and money but wont let us help and on more than one occassion she has nearly set cooker on fire.