I’m so glad that you have finally turned this corner.How’s is everyone today? I don’t write on here quite so often now, not because I’m not grieving anymore ( that will always be with me for in some form) but I’m sort of wrung out of emotions. I feel that in many ways I’ve just got to get on with it and there’s no magic solution waiting round the corner. No more avenues to explore.
Bridget’s well cared for and I don’t have the trouble or anxiety of caring for her like a whole load of staff can with immediate access to her medical and personal needs. Sure, I’d rather do this at home with her here but that would be selfish as things would be neglected and her well being would suffer.
So, life goes on, and sometimes it’s a struggle and sometimes it’s better. The Forum is my go to first comfort and for that I’m grateful.
Thanks everyone
❤️Peter
i would go anyway as it might make you feel better seeing bridget or if you stay at home, you probably wont feel any better. guilt has no place on your shoulders so you can wipe the particular monster off your shoulders with the DTP bashing stick that weve all had a turn of.God I’m hopeless really.
Today I usually visit Bridget and I’m always torn between going and not going, seeing her as she is and remembering what she was. So the guilt piles on as I’ve decided not to go and I feel like a coward and letting her down. Problem is when you’re on your own is that you’ve no one to gee you up and persuade you one way or other. Every visit just opens up old wounds.
I’ll phone the home and explain
you would have miss that if you hadnt gone. hows bruno settling in?Thank you all for your great replies. I went yesterday and I’m going again today.
Yesterday I opened the homes door only to be met by Bridget as she was walking about. Immediately she gasped and “dad” ( I believe she thinks I’m like her daddy, tall and lanky) and it was quite emotional as you can imagine. She was really clingy and we had a close visit.
So thanks once again for the encouragement to go
Peter
Bruno is great as if he’s been here for a long time. Sleeps at lot and now enjoys the garden in the sunshine. Not fussed much about going out. Purrrrfect really?you would have miss that if you hadnt gone. hows bruno settling in?
im glad you got another cat and enjoying him.Bruno is great as if he’s been here for a long time. Sleeps at lot and now enjoys the garden in the sunshine. Not fussed much about going out. Purrrrfect really?
Oh I’m fine Peter thank you for noticing though…… me I’m a night owl and often still up at 3 am, especially on a non working day, shattered by end of my working week though ? xThank you for your reply. All makes sense.
Need to ask. Are you ok? Your reply was early this morning so what’s keeping you awake?
Peter?
Thanks for the reply @Jaded'n'faded. Always there for me?.I can remember meeting with some friends I hadn't seen for a while one Christmas and one of them politely asked how my mum was. I said, 'She's fine, thanks,' and changed the subject. I could see the relief on the friend's face.
Mum was anything but fine but I couldn't tell anyone about it without completely spoiling the Christmas mood and merriment - I just felt it wouldn't be fair. But at the same time I wanted people to understand that no, mum wasn't fine and was never going to be fine again and how I felt about that.
Difficult situation for you @Dutchman There are no easy answers