Thank you @blackmortimer. Even with all your time filled with caring for Margaret you still have time for me. You’re a star.
At least the hospital are running tests , Mum still in hospital & no tests been done wk 10 ! ?♀️?Hi @blackmortimer @Dutchman @DesperateofDevon and all you lovely people. I have been visiting every day but yesterday OH went to hospital following a fall and showing unusual aggression to the carers. He is having lots of tests so it is a big worry.
I know that feeling of emptiness when you get back home and there's no one to greet and tell about what you've been doing. For me the dog has to suffice. She's very good at greeting - much wagging of tail, running round in circles - but not at responding to my news! She looks interested but I suspect she knows that every time I come in there's a treat for her! Still, it's someone to talk to so I have to be thankful for small mercies. God bless,Another dream last night where Bridget was normal ( I use this word to describe Bridget before dementia affected her, as we were as an ordinary couple) and we talked and I couldn’t understand how she could be normal when she had dementia.
I suppose it’s my mind wanting so much for Bridget to return to me and wanting her back to fill the loneliness. Thought I’d paint my bedroom but the colour I’ve bought is too dark. Going to B and Q to look for something lighter. Also a bit of maintenance work at the church this morning. This gives me a diversion and I’m sure Bridget would’ve liked it to know I’m keeping busy. Problem is that I have no one to chat it over with when I come home - that’s the fly in the ointment.
peter
Covid outbreaks for most of last month. No registered volunteers that I know of. Every resident should be able to have one essential care giver. ❤️Why can’t you visit? I missed something! Is it Covid? I’m now a registered volunteer in the home which they value as it helps with the staff and their work. Can you ask if that’s a possibility?
Peter
Essential care givers do additional tests so that sounds the same. They did propose a volunteer scheme early last year but decided against it and I can see why given the nature of the home.I also had to do a CRB check. All very straight forward
The causes of dementia are still uncertain - we know about changes in the brain but these are not always present (see The Nuns Study.) However, one thing that seems to be generally accepted is that dementia starts many, many years before any symptoms show.I’ve been down this road before but it’s one I constantly visit.
I wonder and question if the dementia of our love ones was likely to happen, if Bridget’s vascular dementia was a certainty given it was likely she had TIA’s that I couldn’t prevent ( or could I?)! Many say “ yes, well she/ he has dementia “ as though it’s a forgone conclusion, a condition brought about by unstoppable forces.
But I’ve always needed reassurance that I was incapable of doing anything way back in 2013/14 when , I believe, she suffered little “funny turns “ while we were away on holiday. Could I have done something that could have avoided this misery of losing her.?
I torture myself by thinking this way but it’s constantly on my mind