As my wife, of these many years, offered to fight me as I attempted to give her the care she very much needed. I finally realised that, when confronted with dementia, everything one tries to do will eventually end in failure. Just giving up has it’s appeal and seems as good an option as any other. As Tennyson put it in ’The Lotus Eaters’ :- “Let us alone. What pleasure can we have To war with evil? Is there any peace In ever climbing up the climbing wave?"