Okay, I had Mum as usual at the weekend. Dad went out to watch the football and have a couple of beers. Mum, my daughter and I went out shopping then came home. Mum went to the toilet, when she came out it was very apparent due to the smell that something was very much amiss. I panicked and didn’t know what to do, so I called Dad and he came home and took her up the road to clean her up. I went into the toilet and the sight that greeted me was highly unpleasant and the smell was vile. I’ve no idea what exactly had gone wrong for her but in her own misguided way she’d clearly tried to sort it out. The long and short is that there was poop everywhere, up the walls down the sink all over the towel and so forth. I spoke to Dad and he pointed out that I’ll need to be able to clean her up (not because he was in the pub, but what if something happens to him, I’m all she’ll have). She is using pads incidentally. I felt so awful that I never tried, but was glad that Mum wasn’t there when I went into the toilet, I’ve never retched so much in my life and I would’ve hated to upset her. I accept that I need to deal with this (another bit of Mum’s dignity taken away, it’s so upsetting). I think of all the carers/nurses who manage to deal with this without batting an eyelid. I need to be able to stomach it and wondered (and I realise it’s a sensitive question), how everyone manages to deal with it without feeling ill? I feel so ridiculous, I’ve changed a babies nappy without being so pathetic. I also feel so guilty for not doing something about it but the smell was so bad and to be honest I had no idea how to approach it (again, any pointers on how to clean it up would be great). I know it sounds like common sense but when Mum struggles with basic instructions I don’t know where to begin. I’ve not been able to ask Dad as Mum’s always around. I don’t want to upset Mum should it happen again and would prefer that I was able to deal with this, the whole thing has made me feel awful for so many reasons. Any advice on how you all manage will be gratefully received…..although I’m not enthusiastic about putting it into practice. Dad has admitted he gags and keeps hoping he’ll get used to it. Sorry about the content!