My husband of 35 years who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s nearly 21 months ago (he is 88) now refers to his late wife often. Reminding my step-daughter her anniversary is approaching….All of this is okay and I understand, but last night he said something that jolted me….in the effect he could not remember how our relationship began, and it dawned on me the full effect of his memory loss. He has moments of clarity when he is like his old self, but otherwise he lives in his own world, though he is very dependent on me to organise his life. As this is all very new to me I feel isolated and struggling to do the right thing. He has always had a gentle easy-going nature, but now he is verbally aggressive about his friends (who are remaining in his life, and not passed.