I care for my father who has dementia. I am the youngest daughter so I think my father finds it hard for me to tell him certain stuff (I am telling him or putting things in place to ensure he is safe but he still thinks he can manage and look after himself). I have had to accept I cannot tell my father much (we had a really great relationship when younger) so I have lost that part of my dad and now I feel I am more carer than daughter.
As I am extremely fatigued and emotionally drained, we (my sister and I) are exploring carers. My dad already hates someone coming in every now and then to chat with him and help him when he has signing group so imagine how he is going to be when a carer comes into the house and stays the night whilst I have some time out!
I try and explain why the lady comes and when the carers come and do the assessment we will explain why they are coming in but I get the blame and anger from him whereas my sister can walk away and not have to deal with the grumpiness.
Anyone having any tips on:
A) breaking the news of the carer being introduced when your dementia ‘patient’ still thinks they are capable
B) dealing with the backlash
C) Having to process that your relationship with a loved one changes so drastically
As I am extremely fatigued and emotionally drained, we (my sister and I) are exploring carers. My dad already hates someone coming in every now and then to chat with him and help him when he has signing group so imagine how he is going to be when a carer comes into the house and stays the night whilst I have some time out!
I try and explain why the lady comes and when the carers come and do the assessment we will explain why they are coming in but I get the blame and anger from him whereas my sister can walk away and not have to deal with the grumpiness.
Anyone having any tips on:
A) breaking the news of the carer being introduced when your dementia ‘patient’ still thinks they are capable
B) dealing with the backlash
C) Having to process that your relationship with a loved one changes so drastically