Well I think with all the stress worry and upset, my Dad has now been told he has shingles. He had it about 8 years ago and was very poorly and I am praying it does not make him this poorly again. He did visit Mum on Tuesday, his Dr has said as long as he is covered up it is fine as he can't pass this on to anybody else, but that can't help me worrying. I feel I am between the devil and the deep blue sea here. Should Dad be going to see Mum?? I don't think he would be able to cope without seeing her but at the same time I am worried if he can pass this on himself not only to Mum but other residents. Am I over reacting? I havn't said anything to Dad once he told me his Dr said it would be alright. The other worry is, if Dad does become very ill with this, it will mean I will be doing the 58 mile round trip to care for him then go to see Mum as well as being the wife and mother here. Add that to the fact we have little Molly Louise in neo natal unit and now been told she has a problem with her heart. Yesterday was a nightmare as we had to attend Crown Court, my son was attacked in June this year, he was smashed in his forehead with a glass jar and now has a 2" deep scar. The injury went down to the skull and we were told he was very lucky to be alive. He ended up with about 30 stitches internal and external, which had to be done by a maxi facial surgeon. So off we go leaving just after 7am, to arrive at court and be told 2 hours later that the date has been changed without so much as an explanation. This is one thing we all wanted to get out of the way, as its been a worrying time as my son has been intimidated into not attending. So here I sit absolutely fed up. Mum is hardly eating and has not spoken more than 4 words in the last 3 days. She is also now incontinent on all scores. I could scream.