Am just back from visiting my parents. Armed with lots of ideas from the good people on this forum about where he could be hiding money, when they went to lunch I locked the door after them and had a good search. I went through pockets, wardrobes, books papers, cushions under matresses.......and found not one penny!
He'd just got money from the bank before I went up there £250 which was in his wallet in the drawer. While I was there I've arranged to take over paying the cleaner, hairdresser, grocer etc. So he no longer needs to pay for anything with cash. The doctor came round when I was there and we both spoke to him about money and that he shouldn't be getting so much and keeping it in his flat.
I was at a family funeral on Friday so didn't get to see them - popped in on Saturday to tell them about the funeral and say bye. came back and last night got a phone call to say that he's only got £60 in his drawer. I'm now almost sure that someone is taking his money. Have spoken to the police - the only people who have been in the house in the last two days when Mum and Dad weren't in the room where the money was - are the homecarers - the only others who have access to the room is the wardens who have keys to every flat and can go there when they're having lunch. If I report it I have to go back up and be there when they send a police officer, because of the dementia.
He'd just got money from the bank before I went up there £250 which was in his wallet in the drawer. While I was there I've arranged to take over paying the cleaner, hairdresser, grocer etc. So he no longer needs to pay for anything with cash. The doctor came round when I was there and we both spoke to him about money and that he shouldn't be getting so much and keeping it in his flat.
I was at a family funeral on Friday so didn't get to see them - popped in on Saturday to tell them about the funeral and say bye. came back and last night got a phone call to say that he's only got £60 in his drawer. I'm now almost sure that someone is taking his money. Have spoken to the police - the only people who have been in the house in the last two days when Mum and Dad weren't in the room where the money was - are the homecarers - the only others who have access to the room is the wardens who have keys to every flat and can go there when they're having lunch. If I report it I have to go back up and be there when they send a police officer, because of the dementia.