I care for Dad 82 who lives behind me. He has mild mixed dementia. My Mum is already in care with end stage Alzheimers. Dad has been a member of a local sports club for past 10 yrs. As a rule he only goes once a week. He goes for a couple of drinks, raffles and to socialise, but also plays poker machines. When his dementia came apparent and especially when Mum went into care 3.5yrs ago, just over a year ago I had a meeting with the club manager. Dads usual 3-4hr stay was turning into 7-8hrs ( he goes on my day of work) he was coming home a bit worse for wear also. If he had won money, he was going there every day until his money was spent. His record was 14 days out of 18 straight. Manager agreed that her and staff would to the best of their abilities, refuse to serve him after a few drinks and if he was still there after 4 hrs or on poker machines to move him on home. Since well before Christmas, this arrangement has been lax. Dad staying at his club late on occasion. He always gets a taxi home by 5pm. Last night, after getting home, Dad was still not home. By 7pm, I went looking for him. He had been there 8 hrs. Long story short, Doorman was not aware of arrangement with Club Management, and was not happy that Dad had been there 8 hrs. 82 yrs on his own, drinking, best guest he had nothing to eat plus dementia. He filled out an incident report and was going to see the Club Manager today, recommending Dads membership be cancelled as he was an at Risk person, plus any future repercussions could result in their club licence being revoked. I truly get his point. but its Dads only socialisation, he point blank refuses anything else. We cant stop him from going and there is no one that can go with him. He would not change his usual Tuesday for anything. My sister is adamant that its the clubs fault and they should enforce the arrangement that the club Manager decided. I know the time is coming that he wont be able to attend, but I would rather it not be from his membership being cancelled. I have visions of him still going up on his Tuesday causing a scene to get in, Thoughts please.