Hi This is the first time I have posted. My dad has vascular dementia, dx October, big decline in memory over the last few weeks, has carers. I struggle emotionally watching my once strong, clever dad, deteriorate in front of me. I live a distance away and am an only child. Today has been very difficult, dad couldn't understand why I wasn't coming home to sleep tomight. I haven't lived at home for nearly 40 years. Dad also had to ask at one point who he was talking to, I told dad my name and then he remembered who I was. I am going in the morning to see him with photos from Christmas Day, hopefully these photos will jog his memory of the wonderful time he had with family last week. One photo is of me and dad, and I have added a simple message, love you dad xxxx. I so wish I coyld wave a magic wand and dad would be better, but I know that is impossible. Our aim as a family is to make dad as happy, safe as possible, and that he also knows how much we love him. Sorry if this is not the type of post allowed in the forum, but just by writing down my feelings, it has helped me, deal with my feeling of hopelessness with the situation, my dad and our family find ourselves in.