My Dad has late-stage Alzheimer's. He no longer recognises anyone, and requires help with dressing, eating, washing, toilet needs, etc. My 93-year-old mother is his carer, and has so far refused to accept any help from a carer.
Mum is now struggling to keep Dad clean, which is a concern as he was recently hospitalised with a UTI. Sometimes he badly needs to be cleaned following a toilet visit, but he refuses to let her shower or bathe him, and gets very aggressive. Last night she spent a very fraught 3 hours in bathroom, trying to get him clean using the shower head in the batch (they have a riser seat fitted in the bath) but eventually had to give up - feeling very tired and frustrated. She tried all manner of persuasion and coercion, but nothing worked.
She has finally accepted that she would allow a carer to help her bathe him, but my question is: if my father strongly and aggressively resists being washed, is there anything that a carer could do? If not, does anyone have any other ideas for keeping Dad clean?
Mum is now struggling to keep Dad clean, which is a concern as he was recently hospitalised with a UTI. Sometimes he badly needs to be cleaned following a toilet visit, but he refuses to let her shower or bathe him, and gets very aggressive. Last night she spent a very fraught 3 hours in bathroom, trying to get him clean using the shower head in the batch (they have a riser seat fitted in the bath) but eventually had to give up - feeling very tired and frustrated. She tried all manner of persuasion and coercion, but nothing worked.
She has finally accepted that she would allow a carer to help her bathe him, but my question is: if my father strongly and aggressively resists being washed, is there anything that a carer could do? If not, does anyone have any other ideas for keeping Dad clean?