New member
Dec 8, 2019
Has anyone else had a phone call and a follow up letter regarding ventilators and that my mum will only be offered palliative care at home.? I' upset.


Volunteer Moderator
Feb 27, 2015
Welcome to DTP @Alison1234
How upsetting for you to receive that Alison. I wish you strength to deal with this.
Please keep posting as you’ll get lots of support here.


Registered User
Feb 11, 2020
That's rather brutal - who was it from? We all know there are tough decisions to be made and priorities to be established but to do it pre-emptively seems especially heartless


Volunteer Moderator
Dec 15, 2012
hello @Alison1234
welcome to posting on DTP

another member has posted about a phone call from the GP

there are some difficult conversations to be had at some point in everyone's life
sadly, the current situation is raising a lot of tough issues all at once
maybe it's worth having those conversations before each of us is in the thick of things, and that might be what the caller is trying to help with
palliative care does not at all mean no care, it is to support the person, keep them free from anxiety and pain ... being at home may be best, in the familiar environment