Here we go again. I know we are on a path and I can't get off it. I am just eaten up with worry.
Mum is due home Saturday week. Carer moves into her house a week today. Brother who has arranged all this has left the country for a month.
Saw mum yesterday. Had to leave as she got so angry when I gently explained she would have someone to help her there when she gets home as she can't manage on her own.
She said " I don't need anyone. I am perfectly alright. I do everything for myself. Bla bla bla".
Saw daughter last night. She now is regretting agreeing to be the one who picks mum up,and brings her home. Godmother rang me yesterday after a visit to mum. She also,said mum was not agreeing to having live in help. It has been explained to,her its home with live in care or stay put. Of course she retains nothing except her fury and stubbornness. She can't remember she has done nothing for herself for 2 years.
If William Hill took bets I give it four days. Maybe two before carer throws in the towel.
So next week it's down to me to meet carer let her in give her keys. Get place cleaned.
To be honest I am seething. That is putting it lightly. The stress is eating me up. I want to keep out of it. I am in a way as I refused to,take mum out of home so brother arranged for my 26 year old daughter to collect her.
She will come home to find a strange woman in her house.
Since I last wrote I am back on crutches due to broken leg caused by steroid damage. Now in a brace. Still working full time. Awaiting more test results but right now want to scream. My psychologist who is treating me for post traumatic medical stress says I have to keep out of it. My daughter says I am being unfair to her although I made my feelings really clear at the time. I begged my brother to change his mind. I begged him to hang on until,he was back in the country.
Deaf ears. So here's we go. Lalalalalalalalallalalalalalalaallaal. Oh what to do. I think the answer is do my little bit to help poor carer then sit back and wait for the fireworks.
By the way home know how I feel and agree mum is more confused by the day. She hasn't a clue what is going on. Her short term memory is zilch and you cannot reason with her.
Carer is 24 / 7. What a joke. With a friend who will cover her holidays. I don't agree with that either. Arghhhhhhhh
Mum is due home Saturday week. Carer moves into her house a week today. Brother who has arranged all this has left the country for a month.
Saw mum yesterday. Had to leave as she got so angry when I gently explained she would have someone to help her there when she gets home as she can't manage on her own.
She said " I don't need anyone. I am perfectly alright. I do everything for myself. Bla bla bla".
Saw daughter last night. She now is regretting agreeing to be the one who picks mum up,and brings her home. Godmother rang me yesterday after a visit to mum. She also,said mum was not agreeing to having live in help. It has been explained to,her its home with live in care or stay put. Of course she retains nothing except her fury and stubbornness. She can't remember she has done nothing for herself for 2 years.
If William Hill took bets I give it four days. Maybe two before carer throws in the towel.
So next week it's down to me to meet carer let her in give her keys. Get place cleaned.
To be honest I am seething. That is putting it lightly. The stress is eating me up. I want to keep out of it. I am in a way as I refused to,take mum out of home so brother arranged for my 26 year old daughter to collect her.
She will come home to find a strange woman in her house.
Since I last wrote I am back on crutches due to broken leg caused by steroid damage. Now in a brace. Still working full time. Awaiting more test results but right now want to scream. My psychologist who is treating me for post traumatic medical stress says I have to keep out of it. My daughter says I am being unfair to her although I made my feelings really clear at the time. I begged my brother to change his mind. I begged him to hang on until,he was back in the country.
Deaf ears. So here's we go. Lalalalalalalalallalalalalalalaallaal. Oh what to do. I think the answer is do my little bit to help poor carer then sit back and wait for the fireworks.
By the way home know how I feel and agree mum is more confused by the day. She hasn't a clue what is going on. Her short term memory is zilch and you cannot reason with her.
Carer is 24 / 7. What a joke. With a friend who will cover her holidays. I don't agree with that either. Arghhhhhhhh